The Great Good Place: an idea

The idea of The Great Good Place, also talked about as The Third Place is not my original idea. There is a book out by Ray Oldenberg (spelled from memory) about it. When I describe it, I know you'll recognize it. If you find that place, wherever you are, it's as if you've found the doorway to the community.

Back in the early 70's, I lived in Charlottesville, Virginia. At that time, in that place, The Rising Sun Bakery was such a place. People who went there shared tables with strangers. Ideas hatched. Linkages were made.

The reason I mention it in this blog is that in a crafts discussion on Craigslist, someone asked what would bring customers back again and again to a yarn shop. There were a number of things mentioned, child friendliness, a proprietor generous with knowledge and advice, a gathering of knitters, etc. And then someone mentioned the idea of "a third place". The idea is that we all have at least two places that are our homes, our home and our workplace, and we all continually search for "a third place". Central Perk was that place in Friends. The beauty parlor was that place in Steel Magnolias. Apparently, Starbucks attempts to be that kind of place (which finally explains why people will pay so much for, let's face it, a cup of coffee, there).

Ah, but can any corporate entity (which, face it, Starbucks is, after all) be a real "third place"? Maybe, sometimes, if the people make it so, and if the corporate entity values such a phenomena happening. (I think back to a writing group at a Barnes and Nobels in Orlando, Florida, in 1988 which provided the entirity of my meager social life through a blighted year in exile without a car in Florida, though I'm fairly certain the bookstore had no idea of the valuable thing that was happening there.)

On the other hand, a small business that sets itself out in the beginning to become such a place puts intself in the position to offer something that larger entity it is trying to compete with will have trouble providing. I'm sure there must still be such places all over the world in town after town and neighborhood after neighborhood. If you know one, would you please comment on this post and identify it? Wherever it is, it deserves our patronage. It's certainly the first place I look for when I go to live in a new place, and I would love to know the name of Norwich's third place.